Sick Kids hospital called the other day to let my sister know that the date for surgery on my nephew had been bumped up from September to July which is great news since it means he won't have to miss any school or anything. However now comes the task of actually telling him. He knows he has to have surgery but he doesn't know exactly when. Because he's so sensitive and such a worry wart, she know's if she tells him now he'll be constantly worrying and obsessing over it until then that he'd be a nervous wreck.

Then her dickhead ex-husband/his father decided to chime in that in his opinion they shouldn't even tell him! They should just pretend that they're going to the hospital for more tests, and by the time he realized what's going on the surgery would already be over. Never mind he'd probably wake up not knowing where he was or why he was in pain. As my sister was telling me this I could barely believe what I was hearing. I mean, there's not wanting to worry him but to openly lie to him? We're not talking about just getting a needle or anything, he's having surgery and will have to be in the hospital for at least a day, maybe more. He's probably going to have limited mobility for awhile as the stitches in his back heal. That kind of thing might warrant some discussion no? I think it was more that the dickhead didn't want to deal with my nephew's emotional state upon finding out. Christ, if they didn't tell him, how could my nephew trust either parent again? Ridiculous.

Anyways, last I heard my sister's plan is to tell him maybe a week or two beforehand so he can prepare himself.